Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts
Showing posts with label marriage. Show all posts

Monday, July 6, 2009

Opposites Attract

Skaters and Jocks did not mix.

On any given day you'd have found me sitting innocently on a street curb or at a skate park, but to those passing by I probably looked like a groupie. With my hairstyle, clothing preferences and choice of music I guess that's what I was.

Skaters were peace loving sort of folks. The Jocks were mean and arrogant. I boycotted football games by the age of 13 promising to never attend such activities. I was secure in my world of nonconforming and I wasn't about to let anyone change that. At 14 I had most of the answers to life and I would have told you as much if you'd have asked.

One sunny, but cold January day I was visiting my Dad when my step-sister received a call from a boy that wanted to be her friend...you get the picture. While covering the mouth piece on the much too large phone receiver, my step-sister whispered, "Shane has a friend at his house....and he is hot! Do you want to talk to him?" She quickly explained that he was a jock, but that he was 'cool'.

Appalled at her gall, I said no thank you. I had a boyfriend. One who rode skateboards and was very good at it. But before I knew it the much too large phone receiver was thrust into my face with a huge grin. "He's on...talk to him!"

With a chip on my shoulder I reluctantly took the phone.

Within 5 minutes I was making fun of his girlfriend, whom I'd never met. Her name was Buffy. I couldn't help myself. I envisioned a fancy cheerleader type that followed him around to all his football games, and even worse I envisioned her with the typical late 80's hairstyle....huge 'buffy' bangs. One thing that I was certain I would never have.

The conversation didn't last long and the next day I was back at my Mom's. It was a Monday night and I was watching a movie with a few of my skater friends, when the phone rang. I ran to the kitchen to answer it and when he said, "hey...it's me".....in a voice much to deep to come from a boy barely 14, I was speechless. Accusingly I questioned him, "How'd you get my number?!" And he did what he still does today, answer a stupid question with a question. "How do you think I got it?" Quickly I took his number promising to call him back when everyone was gone.

We talked every night after school for two weeks. Mostly we argued and debated, but whatever you call it, we did a lot of it until it was time to go back to my Dad's house for the weekend. He said he'd go to Shane's house again and we could meet that Saturday in person. Shane lived just around the corner from my Dad so after lunch my step-sister and I ventured out around the neighborhood.

Scared to knock on the door, I stayed in the yard pretending to busy myself squishing leaves on a tree. When he walked out the door....I knew I was in trouble. His eyes were the first thing I noticed. The sun was shinning right through them, they were so clear. His ripped up jeans and heavy metal t-shirt were a little much for me....but his eyes had me caught. What was I getting myself into?

The next day I told my mom I had met the boy I was going to marry. She laughed at me.
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Now, 20 years later I still ask myself that question. What am I getting myself into?

I'd follow that handsome boy with clear eyes anywhere.....even to Portugal.




Friday, February 13, 2009

I Crack Myself Up

I read a post the other morning that used the word "facade".

I thought I understood the meaning and I thought it looked easy enough to pronounce so I tucked this little gem of a word away in my shallow little mind. I was going to pull it out and use it at just the perfect time and stump my loving, yet overachieving husband.

I was going to feel like the smart one...for once.

Well, I was shocked when the opportunity provided itself just a few short hours later.

I tried to use it on my husband. He was hugging me outside after sending our language teacher on her way. I had just completed a tough three hour language class in which both my husband and teacher were very hard on me. I was being overly sensitive I was later told.

Well, he was hugging me...I WAS NOT hugging him and I was trying (really...I was trying) to be mad at him. He wouldn't let me go. (he knows I hate that!) And he told me he loved me.

I said... "No you don't! It's all just a facade!"

Only I said fak-aid.

He tried to hold it in, knowing laughing at me would only intensify my frustration, but when he said, "It's facade not fak-aid..... I lost it.

I laughed so hard I left tears all over his jacket. That was the end of my "pretending to be mad".

Wednesday, February 11, 2009

Almost 12 Years Ago...

When we moved to Portugal, we only brought our luggage. Each of us could carry 2 pieces on the plane. I packed, and re-packed for two weeks. But any way I put it in, it always weighed more than 50 pounds. So many things were left behind.

Somehow, only one of my wedding pictures made it here.


June 14, 1997


I can read your mind.

  • Yes, I was a bleached blond.
  • Yes, we were married in a night club. (I've never been one to do things like they are "supposed" to be done. What fun is that?!)
  • And Yes, I was much thinner then...but you just wait! (I'll be wearing this dress again in no time!)

I had fun with the scanner. I've not ever scanned a picture before...I know..I'm lame. I may have to find some other old pictures to scan.

Last night Michael and I had some "Mommy/Daddy Time". I'll call it our Valentines date. Ms. Dawne stayed with the kids and we went to IKEA to do some shopping for the Valentines Day Dinner we are having this Saturday. We've invited all the folks from the church to come to our house for an Italian dinner. Michael and I will do all the cooking, serving and cleaning. Ms. Dawne has volunteered to babysit all the kids at her house. We just want to do something nice for the folks here in the church that have been so kind and welcoming to our family. And bless their hearts, they listen to me try to speak Portuguese. They deserve so much more than just a dinner!

Wednesday, May 28, 2008

1 + 4 + 3








What do all these pictures have in common?

Well, they're all of couples that are in love with each other. Their love has proven itself over the years. Some have been married just a few years while my Grandparents have been married for over 60 years. Love comes in all shapes and sizes. But one thing I'm convinced of is that Love is a decision... not a hole you fall into and out of. My anniversary is just around the corner and I've been thinking about the years I've spent married to the most handsome man in the world. (Sorry ladies...but it's the truth!) We met in January of 1989. This next January we will have know each other for 20 years and married over 11 of those years. Does Love evolve? I believe it does. Love matures with each person and is shaped into what we want it to be. It's all about decisions, sacrifice and dedication.....just call me Dr. Phil!

"It's been a fantastic 11 years, My Love!!"